Getting a prenuptial agreement can be one of those bittersweet things to do before you get married. On the one hand, it brings up the subject of divorce, but on the other, you’re doing everything you can from the start to protect your property rights if something like that were to happen.

Typically, couples sign prenuptial agreements if someone is particularly wealthy. However, sometimes the financial dynamics change over the course of when you get married to when you get divorced.

One woman who has been married for six years signed a prenup before she said “I do.” And that prenup stated that the couple’s financial assets would always stay separate.

“Before we got married he had me sign a prenup stating that our financials would always be separate,” the woman explained in a post on r/AITA and added that “the reason for this was because he was making pretty good money and I was in graduate school so my financial situation was pretty bad but I signed nonetheless.”

However, now that she’s been out of school for four years, she’s now making three times as much as her husband is making. And while the two never talk about money, the woman decided to buy an Audi—a very expensive car.

Her husband eventually asked her how much her monthly payments came out to, and when she told him she bought the car in cash and didn’t have monthly payments, he was shocked. “He was taken aback and asked what with money and I answered that I made more than enough money to be able to afford it,” she wrote.

She then explained that a few hours later, he told her that they should void their prenup because of all of this.

“This is where I might be the a-hole: I laughed in his face and asked him why I would agree to that and his answer was that we’re married and should share our financials,” the woman said.

However, they’ve never shared financials! So this felt a bit suspicious. When she mentioned that, he didn’t react well. “He called me a bunch of names and stormed out and didn’t come home.”

So who is the jerk in this situation? Most people say that he is more so—but also that none of this really feels like the makings of a good marriage.

“Not gonna lie, you two don’t sound like partners. You sound like you’re against each other in life. take this change of heart as the red flag that it is and consider how you want to proceed,” someone wrote.

“I don’t understand how you can marry someone and claim they are the love of your life, but not trust them to know anything about your salary or share anything to do with money,” another person wrote. “That’s insane to me. No ones an a**hole unless he actually wants her to void the prenup. He might simply be thrown off guard because he didn’t know she ‘got it like that’ and realized there are downsides to choosing to hide a huge part of your life.”

What do you think—who is the jerk more in the situation?