Woman’s “Sterilization” Photo Shoot Sparked Conversation About How Hard It Is For Women To Choose Not To Have Kids

abbysworldsastage via TikTok

It’s not uncommon for people to share their big lives events and exciting news on social media. Got engaged? We’ll see pictures of the ring and the wedding planning. Got pregnant? We’ll see a cute pregnancy announcement, gender reveal photos, and that’s just the beginning. Once the baby is born, there’s bound to be post after post of this little child’s first step, first word, first day of school. The list is endless.

A 24-year-old woman named Abby recently shared an important decision she made that is truly life-changing for her. She used the idea of a gender reveal photo shoot to announce her big news, but her big news was exactly the opposite of being pregnant. She was announcing that she was sterilized and would never be able to have children of her own.

While many people dream of being parents from the time they’re little kids, not everyone does. Many people decide to remain child free throughout their lives, and most of them don’t regret this decision. Abby is one of those people.

Watch Abby’s sterilization reveal TikTok below.

@abbysworldsastage I’m excited to take control of my own body. I’m not a baby maker. #childfree #childfreebychoice #sterilization #celebration ♬ abcdefu (angrier) – GAYLE

Deciding not to have children was easy for Abby, but finding a doctor willing to perform the operation to sterilize her was very difficult. She told BuzzFeed News that the biggest reasons doctor after doctor told her “no” was that they because she was so young they worried that one day she would change her mind and regret this decision.

Abby doesn’t worry that she’ll ever regret having children. She explained, “Better to regret not having a kid than to have one and regret it. At the end of the day, if I regret it, I am the only one suffering for it.” She added, “I think a lot of people ignore the fact that sometimes people regret becoming parents. It’s not uncommon, even if it is taboo to talk about. I honestly think we should talk about parental regret more instead of pretending that parenthood is perfect and magical. Societal pressure to procreate hurts everyone, and maybe more parents could get help if we talked about it more.” 

Many people on TikTok commented on Abby’s video congratulating her.  One person wrote, “Congrats! I really want to but it’s hard even asking how to start the process without everyone freaking out lol.”

Another comment reads, “I’ll never understand why for them we are old enough to have kids, be married and work a 9to5 job but not to decided to not have children. Congrats!”

One mom wrote, “I’m a mom & wanna say congratulations! Same way I was able to choose to have children you should be able to choose & be respected not to.”

Does it surprise you that it was so difficult for Abby to find a doctor willing to sterilize her?