If you’re a woman, you know that you wait your whole life for that moment: That moment your significant other gets on one knee and asks you to marry them. You’ve dreamt of it for years—how shocked you’ll be, how beautiful the location will be, and of course, how gorgeous that rock is going to be.

But what If your engagement ring isn’t all that you cracked it up to be? It’s something we as a society don’t necessarily talk about, but the truth is, about 57 percent of women aren’t satisfied with their engagement rings, according to a 2013 David’s Bridal survey.

We know, we know. How shallow, right? It’s just a piece of jewelry after all. It’s more important that your relationship and marriage be stable than you have a satisfaction with some bling.

On the other hand, if your marriage is forever, then so is that ring. And women should be able to look at their ring and feel a sense of happiness, not disdain.

One woman who hated her new engagement posted to Reddit in a panic asking for advice. While she noted how thrilled she was to be getting ready to marry the love of her life, she couldn’t help but vent about the bad taste her fiancé had in rings.

“I was a bit nervous because I can be picky when it comes to jewelry, but I trusted that he would have enough resources and knowledge to make a wonderful choice,” she posted. “As it turns out, I hate the ring. Not just in a ‘It’s not really my style, but it’ll grow on me,’ way, but in a ‘Wow, this is ugly and I would never wear it,’ way. I feel absolutely awful for thinking this, but I can’t help it.”

She then went on to list exactly what was wrong with her ring. First, the size. It’s “huge and gaudy,” she described it, “like the sort of rings you see old women wearing.” Next, it’s in the shape of a heart, and she absolutely hates heart-shaped jewelry. The color was something else she scoffed at: amber.

“I just won’t understand why in the world he picked this ring out for me. It’s not my style at all and it’s clear he didn’t do any research,” she said. “I’m actually rather hurt by his choice because, to me, it shows a lack of care on his part.”

This Reddit user knew that by posting such a controversial argument, she might get some haters calling her shallow or something like that. But the crazy thing about this post was that at first, people who read the post rolled their eyes and thought “how bad could it be?”

But when they finally caught a glimpse of the ring, everyone agreed at just how bad it was.

“I almost had a stroke when i saw the picture the first time,” one person commented.

“My favorite thing about this is that the ring is exactly as she describes it but you still get just, gobsmacked when you see it,” Someone else wrote.

After coming down from the shock, people did give the poster some advice on how to approach such a delicate situation with her new fiancé. Based on the comments from the thread, it seems like she did eventually get up the courage to talk to her fiancé, though we’re not sure if she got a new ring. Perhaps she’ll post an updated one some day!

What do you think of this girl’s ring? What would you have done in her situation?