Woman Wants to Know If She’s the Jerk For ‘Tricking’ Her Boyfriend Into Eating Vegan Food

Eating vegan means not eating any animal products—so not only do you not eat meat, you don’t eat eggs, dairy and other products of the sort. The diet typically consists of plants and fruits, and even some plant-based meats and proteins. As such a popular diet, there are lots of products like this on the market now.

However, not everyone prefers the vegan lifestyle. Luckily, one vegan’s boyfriend was totally fine eating vegan meals, even though he wasn’t vegan himself. Or…so she thought. It turns out that he never really understood that she was feeding him ‘fake’ meat products and got really mad when he found out.

The girl wrote about her experience in a now-viral Reddit post. “When we went out to dinner for the first time I told him I was vegan when ordering my dish and he just kind of went ‘oh, cool’ and started talking about something else,” she explained. ”It never really came up ever again as a point of discussion, though when he’s come over and I’ve made lunch/dinner it’s always been dishes. I’ve never tried to actively hide this from him. When he asked what we were having I’d say things like ‘burgers’ and I assumed that he knew it would naturally be something like impossible burgers.”

However, he didn’t know that. Whether he forgot she was vegan or just never put two and two together, we’ll never know, but what happens next is pretty crazy.

On Christmas, this girl decided to cook her husband a delicious vegan lasagna. She had told him that it was just “lasagna,” never mentioning the vegan part—she just thought he knew that since she was vegan herself. Well, that backfired, thanks to the TV show they decided to watch afterward.

“After dinner, we were watching some cooking show and a contestant was making something with fake meat. John commented how he hated when dishes pretended to be meat when it was plant-based and it was deceptive and gross and he would never eat that,” she said. “I was naturally very confused and pointed out that he’s eaten that several times. When he questioned me I explained that dinner had been entirely vegan with fake meat and every time he’s eaten at my place it’s been a vegan dish.”

He was not very happy about that. “He accused me of tricking him into eating something he found disgusting and ‘forcing’ my diet on him,” the girl wrote. “I said he was stupid for being mad at this and he said it would be the same as if he had tricked me into eating meat. I said it wasn’t the same because I was morally opposed to eating meat but nobody was morally opposed to eating plants. We argued some more and he left and went home. He hasn’t been over since.”

Days later, and they’re still arguing over this. That’s why she turned to Reddit to see whether she was being the jerk, or was it him? The results are in: He’s definitely the jerk in the situation, most people said.

“He seems embarrassed that he didn’t retain the information when you told him you were vegan, and is acting hyper defensive about it. This is something he should laugh about forgetting, if anything. And him not noticing should be a good thing…apparently he does enjoy your fake meat. It seems the trash is trying to take itself out. I’d let it do just that,” someone wrote. “Lucky you found out you were dating an inattentive dummy before it went any further,” another said.

What do you think—is the girlfriend the jerk, or the boyfriend?