Mom Goes Viral With TikTok Where She Explains the Sad Reality of “Daddy Privilege”

chloebluffcakes via TikTok

Let’s face it: In the world we live in, when a mom does mom things with her babies, she’s just a mom doing mom things. That’s just her responsibility, right? She had kids, so she has to take care of them and entertain them and the like. But when a DAD does dad things—the same exact things a mom might do—even though the baby isn’t any less his—he’s a hero.

It’s a phenomenon that one TikTok mom recently coined “daddy privilege” after her husband indeed experienced some major “daddy privilege.”

The woman’s name is Chloe Sexton, and she owns a bakery called BluffCakes in Memphis, Tennessee. She is also the mother of a 6-month-old named Theodore and a 7-year-old named Mason.


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Every week, Chloe goes to Restaurant Depot to purchase wholesale ingredients for her bakery—but since her husband works too, she always takes Theodore. And before Theodore, she was pregnant when she went. “I’m, like, wearing him (Theodore) or was massively pregnant buying 400 pounds of flour and 100 pounds of butter, and that’s a weekly thing. The list goes on and on, like — it’s a lot,” she says in her TikTok.

There was one day when her husband had the day off from work and decided to help Chloe out by going to the store himself with Theodore. But Chloe was shocked at how he was treated.

“When I tell you, the way that this man was treated like a hero — A HERO,” she says. “Mind you, those same people see me there every single week.”

It’s hard when you put the work in every week, and no one acknowledges it simply because you’re a mom—but when Dad does it, it’s like he’s Superman.


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“I’m strapped up with a baby or seven months pregnant, hauling 100-pound bags at a time of flour in the back of my Subaru. Meanwhile, I’m getting a whole lotta…NOTHING TO SEE HERE. Just a woman doing woman things, busting her ass,” she says. “But my husband, my husband wears the baby and he goes to Restaurant Depot for mommy’s business and it’s, ‘Oh my god, look at you! Oh my god, you work so hard.’”

How infuriating, especially for Chloe, but never gets this kind of praise. “He’s literally not a hero. He’s just a father, just a parent, doing the same shit I do every week,” she said.

Check out Chloe’s video below!

@chloebluffcakesIt’s the daddy hero treatment for me 🙃♬ original sound – Chloe

The video racked up almost a million likes, with so many moms feeling the same way.

“Greatness is expected of women but are somehow never appreciated for it,” someone wrote.

“Absolutely insane how people act toward dads just being a parent,” another agreed.

“I went to go do my nails and they asked who was watching the kids, I said dad/husband. And they’re like ‘that’s so nice of him.’ NO THAT’S HIS JOB,” another said.

Do you think there’s a fine line between moms and dads receiving treatment for simply taking care of kids? We’d love to hear your story!