13 Men Share Examples of Toxic Masculinity They’ve Faced In Their Lives
“Toxic masculinity” is a term that most males are familiar with. It’s a term that surrounds negative aspects of stereotypical masculine characteristics. For example, a man might experience negative connotations if he’s grocery shopping with his toddler or something of the like—something a female might be more associated with.
A recent Reddit post asked men for a form of toxic masculinity they’ve experienced in their life—and the gents came through. Here are the top answers—they might surprise you!
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Wearing a Seatbelt
“I always wear seatbelts in cars. They don’t bother me, I do it automatically without even thinking, but every so often someone will scoff or poke fun that I put my seatbelt on when we share a cab or an uber. It’s like, why would I not? I don’t feel like smashing out my front teeth if the driver gets into a fender bender.
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Caring for Animals
“I’ve been called ‘gay’ for rescuing a starving kitten and taking it to the RSPCA.”
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Working at a Summer Camp
“I was accused of being a pedophile because I worked at a summer camp as a male… by a female high school teacher.”
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Traveling With Just Their Kid
“People act like I’m suspicious or dangerous when I travel alone with my daughter. Every time I go out in public without her mother I get people watching me closely. I parked my car in a parking lot to feed her lunch a while back (didn’t want to take her inside due to COVID) and a group of people gawked and circled our vehicle in their truck a few times. That is not an uncommon experience for me.”
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Drinking a Margarita
“After the final exam, my classmates and I went to a nearby bar to drink our pains away. I ordered a lime Margarita and was mocked by both the males and females that it was a girly drink. Same thing when I ordered a long Island afterwards. (I’ve now moved to cosmopolitans, since three or four can get me happy drunk, and tastes awesome!)”
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Watching Certain TV Shows as a Kid
“My dad would constantly tease me for having a baby doll and for watching My Little Pony. He’s really awesome, he just never realized that what he thought of as joking and teasing was actually really hurtful.”
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Uninterested in Cars
“Almost everyone I know has at some point ridiculed or bullied me because I don’t like or want a car.”
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Having a Girly Favorite Color
“My favorite color is purple. Tried to wear purple and nope. Too many dumb comments.”
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Having a Low Alcohol Tolerance
“Being able to chug alcohol and just keep on going, I just can’t, I got a low threshold, I can’t have like 5 shots of tequila and go about my business. 5 shots of tequila and I’m gonna be a mess.”
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Having Good Taste in Home Décor
“Decorating my home I’m a single guy. I enjoy having a really nice looking place to live in. I carefully choose things for my home. I get the occasional remark about it. I don’t let it bother me but hey.”
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Having Long Hair
“Growing my hair long and in a ponytail. Get call girlie. When I had it cut on #2 I was told I look like I just got out of prison. Look in mirror and judge yourSELF.”
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Feeling Sad or Tired
“My mother in law told me to stop whining and “man up”, we were new parents and I was working nights. The only thing I said was that I was “tired”. It’s stuff like that. I’m actually clinically depressed, but I never talk about it because I’m 6’3″ and masculine so I’m not allowed to feel sad or tired.”
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Being a Decent Human Being
“I was constantly called gay in middle school and high school because I was single, had good hygiene habits, and was generally respectful towards women.”
Did you know that toxic masculinity exists? Are you a male and have ever experienced something like the above?