Husband Fed Up With Doing 100% Of Household Chores Finally Snaps At Pregnant Wife
We ask after a recent Reddit post went viral of a man venting about his pregnant wife. This man, who has a full-time job, wanted to do everything in his power to make sure that his wife was comfortable during her pregnancy. And that meant he took on 100% of the household chores, accommodating her cravings, and just generally tending to her in any way he could.
You’d think that the wife would notice all that he was doing and attempt to help out—but she never did, and he was beginning to get quite burnt out, as you might imagine. “I love my wife and want her to be comfortable while pregnant but working full time and doing 100% of the chores is very draining,” he wrote.
He tried to ask her if she’d be willing to do an 80/20 split on the chores, but she got pretty offended. “She says that it would stress her out and possibly harm the baby, which scared me (I don’t want anything to happen to our baby), so of course I didn’t push it,” he said.
And so, he trekked on to be the perfect husband. But then, chaos struck: One night at 2 a.m., the man’s wife woke him up to ask if he’d go get her fruit snacks, which she was badly craving.
“I have made many late nights runs but this week has been so stressful for me; I worked overtime the entire weekend and a deadline is approaching,” the man explained. “I told her I was sorry but I really needed to rest, I was exhausted.”
After she begged, pleaded, and cried, the man stood firm to his answer—but that’s what really set her off. The wife told him how horrible of a husband he was being and even that she was ‘scared to see [him] as a father if this is how selfish [he is].’
He finally snapped! “I told her I’ve been taking care of 100% of the responsibilities for the past 6 months—she’s been sitting on her phone every single day and hasn’t had to lift a finger,” he said. “Then I said I was done doing 100% of the chores and we need a more even split because I was losing hair from stress. I will admit I had a tone and was obviously irritated. This caused her to cry more and she kicked me out to the couch.”
“This has caused a huge rift between us,” he explained. “She was pissed at me the entire day and locked me out of the bedroom tonight. My MIL has texted me to call me an a**hole. They both said the stress I am putting on my wife will hurt the baby so now I feel super guilty. I need perspective.”
All right, who is the jerk here?
Reddit users say *drumroll please*…he is NOT the jerk. “Most women literally hold on to their full-time jobs 6 months into their pregnancy and beyond. Why is she not even capable of doing light housework?” someone wrote. “She’s pregnant, not on her death bed,” another noted.
“You know what’s bad for her and the baby? A sedentary lifestyle,” someone else pointed out. “If all she’s doing is sitting around. Plenty of women keep active, hold jobs, etc. While pregnant. Unless the doctor specifically told her she needs to be bedridden she’s the AH. She’s taking advantage of your fears, and it’s manipulative AF.”
Do you agree? What would you have done in this situation?