Mom Wants To Know If She’s Right To Be Mad At Ex-Husband For Feeding Vegan Daughter Chicken McNuggets

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When parents get divorced, they might not be each other’s favorite person—but sharing kids together means you need to co-parent in a way that’s beneficial to the child.

One woman divorced her husband after he cheated on her, but they remained cordial for their daughter. She also says that though he wasn’t the best husband, he’s a very loving father.

However, that’s why she was so confused when he fed her daughter chicken, even though she was vegan.

She explained that she and her ex were both vegan, and she only became vegan herself because he was first. Therefore, naturally, because of what they ate, her daughter didn’t eat animal products, either.

It wasn’t that the mom wanted her daughter to be vegan and was mad she broke the diet—she just wanted to be informed, which may have avoided the meltdown she got when she and her daughter passed a McDonald’s in the car.

“She has a full. blown. meltdown demanding chicken nuggets,” the mom wrote in a Reddit post.

Though she explained to her daughter, after she was calm, that it was okay she ate meat, she didn’t appreciate the tantrum, as she had no idea she even knew what real chicken nuggets were.

“I AM f**king pissed because I wasn’t aware our hitherto vegan daughter was now eating meat and I feel like that’s a decision that I should have been informed about,” she exlplained. “I called him after she went to bed and he told me I was being uptight and he didn’t tell me because he knew I’d overreact. I’m controlling and I don’t need to be privy to every single thing he does when our daughter is with him.”

She goes on to explain that, again, it isn’t the fact she ate meat—it’s that her ex just decided that was okay and never told her.

“I’d always felt like when she became old enough to choose her diet, I’d let her make her own decisions. If she wants to each chicken nuggets, give’r. But, like, I feel wildly, wildly frustrated that he unilaterally made this choice. I feel like I should have been made aware. I try to keep him updated on her stuff when she’s with me,” she said.

She ends the post asking if she’s the jerk in this situation or is he?

Most people agree: The ex is the jerk! “It is 100% reasonable to expect him to let you know that your daughter has been eating meat, if only so you know she’d like to change her diet!” someone wrote. “The fact that he is the one who pushed veganism in the first place only makes this extra sh*tty.”

“It’s not okay for parents to not cooperate when parenting a child. This should have been a discussion, at the very least,” another agreed.

What do you think—is he the jerk or is she?