Father Asks If He’s A Jerk For Refusing To Pay For His Daughter’s Destination Wedding

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Weddings are often a celebration of love, but they can also be a source of stress, especially when it comes to the high price tag. In a recent story that has captured the attention of many on Reddit, a father found himself at a crossroads as he grapples with his daughter’s extravagant (read: expensive) dream wedding.

The story begins with a New York father who had made a heartfelt promise to pay for his daughter’s wedding. After all, it’s a common pledge made by parents to support their children as they start their journey into married life. However, the father’s generosity was put to the test when he discovered the sheer grandeur of his daughter’s wedding plans.

To his surprise, the daughter’s dream wedding was not an ordinary affair. Instead, it was a lavish destination wedding set in the picturesque landscapes of New Zealand. The price tag? A staggering $200,000! The father, shocked by the extravagant choice, found himself in a dilemma.

On one hand, he felt the paternal urge to fulfill his daughter’s wishes and create a memorable wedding experience for her. On the other, he questioned the necessity of such an opulent display of wealth. He described it as “burning money” and expressed concerns about alienating family members.

AITA for telling my daughter I am not paying for a destination wedding? byu/Solid-Pass8944 inAmItheAsshole

Turning to the online community for advice, the father shared his predicament on the “Am I the A*****e” subreddit. Redditors were quick to offer their perspectives and support. Unsurprisingly, many people found the daughter’s request audacious and felt that this expensive of a wedding in a far-off location was excessive, to say the least.

The discussion delved into practical matters as well. Some questioned who would cover the expenses of guests traveling to the distant wedding location, since the father expressed concerns about family members who couldn’t afford the trip or lacked passports to travel to New Zealand.

The father acknowledged that he might have contributed to his daughter’s expectations by shielding her from financial hardships. He recognized that his desire to provide a better life for her might have led to the current situation.

Amid the various opinions and advice, one Redditor suggested a compromise: To contribute what the father was comfortable with, allowing the daughter to plan her wedding within that budget. This way, he could support her while maintaining financial responsibility.

Ultimately, while the father may grapple with the decision, this story serves as a reminder that striking a balance between generosity and practicality can be challenging, especially as a parent.

What would you do in this father’s situation? What do you think of how he handled it?