Even celebrities don’t always have rainbows and sunshine when it comes to their marriage—plenty of Hollywood stars end up signing papers for a divorce at some point, and that includes singer and songwriter Adele.

Adele and ex-husband Simon Konecki split in March of 2021—and while it might’ve been a shock to fans, Adele says that it was actually in the works for a while after one specific moment.

It was actually in a happy moment, while she was with her friends. They were reading questions from a magazine and having each other answer them.

“We were all answering these questions in this very bougie magazine, and it was something like, ‘What’s something that no one would ever know about you?’ And I just said it in front of three of my friends, I was like, ‘I’m really not happy. I’m not living, I’m just plodding along,'” Adele recalled during a recent interview with Oprah Winfrey.

“And I remember a lyric that I wrote that I put on a song on 25, which is ‘I want to live and not just survive.’ I definitely felt like that. And it was when I admitted to my own friends who thought I was really happy that actually I’m really unhappy, and they were all aghast. I felt like it was sort of from there that I was like, what am I doing it for?” she said.

Does she regret marrying Simon, then? The answer is no. In fact, she feels like they were married for a reason, and wouldn’t trade it for anything.

“He came at such a moment, where the stability that he and [her son] Angelo have given me, no one else would have ever been able to give me, especially at that time in my life,” Adele said. “I could’ve easily gone down some dodgy paths, [or been] sort of self-destructive from being so overwhelmed by all of it. And he came in and he was stable, the most stable person I’ve ever had in my life up until that point.”

The one thing upsetting her about the divorce? Her obsession with the “nuclear family” and how her life wouldn’t be like that any longer.

“I’ve been obsessed with the nuclear family my whole life because I never came from one,” she asid. “In all these movies and all these books, when you grow up reading them, that’s what it should be. I just, from a very young age, promised myself that when I had kids, that we’d stay together. We would be that united family. And I tried for a really, really long time.”

“I was just so disappointed for my son. I was so disappointed for myself, and I thought I was gonna be the one that stopped doing those bloody patterns all the time,” she added. In the end, though, it’s for the best!

Do you think divorce can be beneficial? Why or why not?