We all know social media can be unrealistic. From the perfectly decorated homes to the wonderfully organized pantries and the sparkling clean floors…And yet, even though we know it’s all a sham, it can sometimes still make us feel badly about ourselves if our homes don’t look as spotless as the ones we see online.

That’s especially true when it comes to parents. People with kids tend to have a harder time keeping their homes neat—and for good reason. After all, how are you supposed to prioritize doing the dishes, the laundry, and sweeping when you’ve got a screaming newborn, a clingy toddler or a demanding preschooler?

It’s certainly easy to get sucked into the unrealities of social media—even for moms who seem like they have it all together. But thankfully, there are some really authentic accounts out there. Mom of three, 39-year-old Macgill Frutchey created “Dumpster Fire Farmhouse,” a video series where she shares the realities of motherhood.

“I just love connecting with other moms in a real way, just being authentic,” she said. “I’m not trying to make it look more messy to get more likes and I’m not trying to make it look perfect. It’s just a series of me taking pictures of the house or just being real without trying to touch anything up, which in today’s world, it’s crazy that that’s groundbreaking. I mean, like so many moms are furiously cleaning just before taking a picture.”

Frutchey has learned to embrace the natural messes that occur when raising not one, not two, but three children—and everything that goes along with it. And you know what? She loves her messy, chaotic life. But it didn’t always feel like a blessing.

“I started my page in 2016 after giving birth to three kids in two years,” she said. “I was losing my mind and I wanted some comic relief and I was struggling, and I knew I couldn’t be the only one feeling like I could never seem to hold it all together as a mom.”

Frutchey says she was even initially guilty of taking perfectly curated photos that showed her home in an unrealistic light. But once she was able to normalize how her home actually looked, she felt so much better and was able to connect with others in the same boat.

“I’m just a regular mom and I know that other moms feel similar and we just need to see something real,” she said.

Her advice to others? Embrace it. Cherish it. It won’t be like this forever. Focus on the things that truly matter. “So just take the picture,” she said. “Your kid is doing something adorable. Don’t worry about the mountain of laundry on your couch behind you. We all have that, you know, but we’re bombarded with these images that show us the opposite, not the truth.”

See some of her best clips in the video below!

If you have kids, can you relate to this mama? We dare to share a photo of what your home looks like on a daily basis!