13 People Share Their Biggest Friendship Betrayal Stories
The saying goes that in order to have a friend you have to be a friend. Sometimes friendship is easy. You find people who get you or are in the same life phase and understand what you’re going through. You have fun together. You share life together. It’s great.
But, it’s not always great. Sometimes people who you think are real friends turn out not to care about you at all. It can be devastating losing a friend, but sometimes there’s no going back to how things once were after a bad betrayal.
One Reddit user asked for examples of things friends have done that proved they weren’t really your friends. Many Reddit users shared stories of friends tricking them, lying to them and doing things they they had to know would end the friendship.
Hopefully you have never had a friend who betrayed you like one of the stories below.
He Traded His Friendship for a Ride
Reddit user audiate wrote:
When I was in college, a close friend from high school called me in a panic saying his girlfriend was just discharged from the hospital and he needed to go take care of her. When I say close, I mean every weekend together, called each other’s moms “Mom.” We had a really tight, small circle of friends, so of course I went to help. I had spent all day at school and all night working dinner at a restaurant, but in an emergency like that, sure, I got you.I drove 40 minutes to get him, then an hour to her house. He’s trying not to panic the whole way. When we pull up, the bedridden girl who needed round the clock assistance was sitting on the curb smoking a cigarette, then bounces up and says, “Give me a hug, fucker!” I very loudly and aggressively made it clear what a piece of shit he was for lying about this. I made sure he knew that he traded our friendship for a ride to his girlfriend’s house. Then I drove the hour home and except for acknowledging him at his brother’s wedding, haven’t spoken to him since.
He Should’ve Given the Tape Back
When I was a kid, I had a friend who was poor as hell. My family didn’t have much, either, but his was worse off. I used to give him things, now and then. Toys, and whatnot.When I was 10, my mom died. Some months later, I was at my friend’s house, and he showed me a cassette tape that I’d given him, and then played it. It had my mom’s voice on it. For some reason, I had recorded a conversation with her. I thanked my friend for the tape, and he asked what I meant. I told him thanks for giving it back. He said that no, I gave it to him, and it was his. Then to show that it was his, he took it out of the tape deck, pulled the tape from the cassette, and snapped it. We were kids, sure, but that was one of the shittiest things that someone has ever done to me.
Ghosted Over and Over Again with No Explanation
Ghosted me after 20+ years of friendship. He was my best friend for as long as I can remember but at some point he just stopped saying yes when I suggested getting together. We could have a conversation about anything but the second I brought up doing something it was radio silence. He finally agreed to something then blew me off like an hour beforehand. No raincheck or suggestion we try again. I was depressed for days but that was the day I gave up.He was the best man at my wedding. I loved him like a brother and still hope he’s doing well and happy. But the rejection hurts so much that I just don’t try anymore. I’ve mourned the death of our relationship and am done with it. And I still don’t know why.
A Betrayal and a New Friend
I had 12 hours before I deployed to Afghanistan. I lived about 6 hours from my point of departure (airport from which I would fly into theater) and my friend/ex-girlfriend had committed to driving me there on that day. Packed, dressed, goodbyes said, I take an Uber to her house with all my gear and baggage ready to go. I knock on the door and she answers in her robe. I ask her if she was about ready and she proceeds to tell me that she forgot (after we had talked 2 days prior) and that she really wasn’t feeling like driving that distance. Utterly shocked and confused, I explain to her that if I miss my flight, it’s considered a “failure to report for duty” and I could be considered a deserter or AWOL. Heavy consequences for it either way. She told me to figure it out and closed the door. At that point I had no idea what to do so I called my first sergeant. We worked in a very remote location and he was the closest person to me at that point. That man drove the 3 hours from his home to get me and then the other 6 hours to the airport. Bought me dinner and got me tipsy before I had to get on my flight. I had the stunning realization that day that you really can’t trust anyone, but I gained a lifelong friend as a result. We still talk regularly ’til this day!
His Girlfriend Ended Up in Tears
The horrible first impression my at the time ‘best friend’ had on my at the time new girlfriend who is now years later my wife.We all went out to dinner and my wife is shy and quiet while my friends are loud and rowdy. My friends cousin kept messing with her and being obnoxious despite her very much telling him to stop. At one point he made inappropriate comments on her boobs and it got to the point where she ended up crying and walking out of the restaurant. I followed her and my “friend” who had been in the bathroom at the time called me to ask what happened I told him his cousin was being a dick and his response was that my gf was being a bitch, that they were trying to get her to talk more but she was “giving them the cold shoulder” and wasn’t welcome to their outings anymore. He went on to apologize later on but was having problems with alcoholism and we drifted our separate ways before long.
Lied About Identity
I had a falling out with my best friend and at one point they wanted to reconcile so we had a day together and it was good. About two weeks later I am summoned to court on traffic charges and refusing to appear. It turned out that this person was stopped by police, did not have identification and claimed to be me. Once the judge read the police report, giving physical description of what was supposed to be me, he looked at me and dismissed the case. I never saw that person again. I heard much later, through mutual aquaintences they had committed suicide.
Picking Up Friends Instead of Playing a Game
They called me up and invited me over to play a game with them and their friends. At the time I had only barely started driving, but I decided, yeah, that sounds like fun, so I went over to play. When I arrived I found out that they had volunteered me to pick up the other friends. I was not prepared to do this, but she trapped me because I had already agreed to come play “with her friends”. I was pretty annoyed by this, but I went ahead and drove to three places picking everyone up, and no one was really ready to go when I arrived and one of them also needed me to drop them back on campus to drop off their school assignment. By the time all was said and done it was really late and I needed to get back home because I had to get up in the morning to go to work. Not one of them even said thank you. The friendship didn’t really last much longer after that.
Missed a Group Outing
Promised to invite me to a group outing, only to text me one day out of the blue that they already left and “oh well”. From mutual friends who went on the outing, they told me that this friend never told them that I was invited.
A Horrible Lie
In 8th grade, after I switched schools, a friend of mine called me one night and told me a kid I wanted to be friends with killed himself. 3 months later I visit their graduation ceremony and find out he lied to me and that the kid was still alive.
My best friend got with my first husband while I was pregnant, helped destroy our marriage,, supported him so he could quit his job and avoid paying child support, joined him in abusing my kids while they were with him, and then tried to cry on my shoulder when he ended up screwing her over when they split after 14 years of jointly making my life a living hell.
Ended Through a Text
I had a very close friend in highschool, she moves to Alabama for uni after we graduated, but we kept close! When she came back we didn’t talk much, but I still considered her a close friend. We went out for coffee about two years ago, she kept asking me about my life and my goals and I said I was happy where I am (I coach gymnastics) and my boyfriend and I will eventually take over his family farm, and start our own family. She texted me two days later and said “hey so my entrepreneur friend is hosting a workshop, do you want me to sign you up?” I said no but thanks for the offer, she then texted me “so clearly we are at two different points in our lives, you have no goals, or ambitions, and I don’t want that kind of negativity in my life. I wish you the best” and I never spoke to her again.
Cut Off While Sick
This is currently happening. I had a stroke in 2020 (I’m young, 31) and then found out that my kidneys were failing shortly after. I know it’s a pandemic, but not one of my friends have even texted me to check on me, or ask my husband who they’re all also “friends with”. Literally everyone cut me off when I got sick. Can’t drink? Not friends anymore.
No Idea What Happened
After 25 years of friendship…I announced to my best friend that I was moving to the city she was in. I had a great job opportunity and felt like it was an awesome time to make a big life change. I was so excited to tell her, I could hardly wait. She flatly replied with, “cool”…and when I asked her what parts of town I should look at to live she stated “I can’t help you, you should just figure it out when you get here”. We never had a fight, had been close for our entire adult lives and I had continually helped her in all aspects of her life without hesitation. To this day, I cannot tell you why she started treating me this way. Long story short, we live in the same city and haven’t seen each other in 6 years. And I’m quite sure we live minutes away from each other. I will prob never know what happened